2009
07.05
75% of online singles claim they are looking for a life partner – a much higher percentage than the locals down the pub.

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Contact is quick when online dating, with free sites offering instant messenger, video cam chat and groups, there is a chance for everyone to converse the

way they choose to.

Convenience.

 

dating profiles allow you to accurately determine if an online single would suit you.

 

Even if you don’t meet a long lasting partner, you can make many friends with common interests.

We all know someone who met their partner online and that could be you.

 

Fear of rejection is lessened as everybody is aware of where they stand before they chat to initial members and can decide whether to pursue or not.

Online dating can enable you to chat secretly with several singles before taking the next step.

 

Online dating allows singles to get to know someone fairly well before committing to meeting them in person.

 

online dating can be very safe if you don’t hand out private information in early chats – the other member has no way of tracing you.

 

online dating can assist you overcome feelings of shyness, paranoia and insecurity.

 

Online dating chat can be kept for later reference, meaning you wont forget what you were chatting about.

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Online dating chat rooms offer an excellent source of dating advice for new timers or the not so experienced.

 

Online dating isn’t dangerous – you don’t have to go to meet an unknown stranger and you can always let your mother know where you are.

 

Online dating can be very private, no one need know that you have joined a dating site.

 

online dating means you can find groups of singles or set up your own groups for similar minded singles.

 

online dating profiles can inform you about a person more so than initial conversations usually can, therefore you are more likely to choose someone with suitable dating credentials.

 

Potential partners have a better chance to get to know one an other as they are not restricted by closing times, the picture theatre finishing or the date ending.

 

The best free sites allow singles to chat endlessly without charge.

 

The amount of online singles available is huge.

 

The online dating friends you find may be sober!

 

The friends you meet are single (hopefully!) and you wont have to second guess it.

 

Statistics show the chances of your online dating relationship will out last “conventional” dating methods.

 

There are usually new online dating members waiting to chat.

 

There isn’t any social stigma attached to online nowadays.

 

Web cam chat permits you to see the other member and so you can tell if the attraction is there.

 

You are not limited by distance.

 

You cant get sunburnt when online dating.

 

You can “date” many singles in the early days then find the one you like the best.

 

You can easily get out of online friendships that are not working.

 

You can flirt away until your hearts content, safe that nobody will take you too seriously – unless you would like them to.

 

You can find people wanting the same amount of commitment – marriage, serious romance, casual sex, friendship, chat and dates.

 

You can find people with marginal interests that match yours – You may not be the only one who collects lunch boxes?  Online you will discover someone else who shares your interest.

 

You can meet someone fast – often on the first sign on.

 

You can sometimes see the singles you would like to chat with before initiating a conversation.

You can online date and don’t have to feel guilty at leaving your dog home by themself.

 

you can go online dating at any time of the day or night.

 

You can online date when the kids are asleep and get to know others without introducing lots of new “dads” or “mums”

 

You do not need to ask for someone’s mobile number to online date them, the method of contact is established.

 

You do not need any money when online dating using free dating sites.

 

You do not need such great social skills when online dating.  You can get to know people over time and get over any initial awkwardness.

 

You do not need to get new clothes and dress up to meet online singles.

 

You don’t get surrounded in smoke when you are internet dating (or alternatively you can smoke yourself to death whilst online dating)

 

You don’t have to wait for the weekend to meet your dream partner – you could chat to them before work, during work (don’t get caught!) or after work.

 

You wont get burgled while you are online dating.

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2009
06.29
Many women who seek male partners for long term relationships share a common issue in that many available men seeking the same type of relationship are a rare breed.

Night life as we know it has turned into a pit of late nights fuelled by alcohol, drugs, violence, bad attitudes and deceit. Wine bars are often frequented by married men looking for something on the side. The local pubs are often full of just men and very intimidating for a couple of single girls wanting to come inside for a few quiet drinks without having to put up with dozens of drunks gurgling at them through their beer goggles. Night clubs are fine if its just to pick up for the night, but for locating a long term sincere boyfriend, your chances are pretty slim.

Other issues singles of both sexes often vent is that when they hit their late 20s and early 30s, meeting a new partner through friends becomes increasingly hard as this age group typically moves away from the singles scene and into married life.

Through researching this dilemma single women face in today’s society, it was truly staggering to come across the amount of intelligent and beautiful single women who could not find a man worthy of a relationship.

Online is where they are! Women using online dating sites are spoilt for choice with eligible sincere men. A common complaint by many single men online was that the competition was very tough.

Whilst the numbers of single men compared to single women online are roughly the same, the etiquette seems to be that the women posts her profile and waits for the offers to just roll in from the guys. So the girls usually don’t even have to do alot. Its pretty much just a matter of sitting down for half an hour each day and clearing your inbox of the unwanted advances and making a short list. Yep its that easy. Just make sure you pay attention to posting a profile that has some sort of appeal – perhaps a fun photo or a catchy opening headline.

If you haven’t ever entertained the idea of joining an online dating site, then be prepared to stay single for some time yet. There are millions of male singles online to chat to. You don’t even need to leave your house!

The online dating industry is massive on a global scale. Many dating sites are 100% free of any cost to their members. You can meet single guys in free online chat rooms before meeting them in person.

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2009
06.22
Leading online dating site hookmeup has re-launched its website offering all new and existing members free use of all its facilities. There are no gimmicks or hidden surprises with their new offer.

Online daters have grown tired of online dating sites offering free online dating that doesnt deliver. Most sites offer kisses, roses, flirts, stamps, credits etc only to  hit members up for a subscription somewhere down the track. www.hookmeup.com.au offers free member contact, free instant messaging, free web/video chat, and free chat rooms. Their website also has a groups service where you can create your very own community. This online dating site seems to have the lot.

Hookmeup has all the very best features that rsvp, redhotpie, eharmony and aussiematchmaker offers, with one main difference being you wont at any stage be asked to pay. Hookmeup now has several thousand members. Registration is short and simple, and who knows, you might just find a friend or a hot date.  

Another excellent component is how simple the website is to use. A simple menu to choose from. Its all spelt out in plain english. Long winded and complicated online dating sites are also frustrating for online daters.

With such an over supply of online dating sites out there hookmeup has taken all the nonsense out of the online dating experience. Many singles are taking advantage of this free and state of the art website.  The owners of hookmeup have done thorough research in providing online daters what they want. Free, simple, with loads of features.

Time and time again many online dating sites advertise free to browse, free to join, free to register etc etc. Its mis-leading and has given the online dating industry a bad name.  Hookmeup should be a real hit in this industry. Online daters are becoming savy and no longer need to be tricked into paying for online dating when there are sites like hookmeup and others doing it for free.

Online dating is a way of life for many singles. As a result so many dating sites have popped up over the years. The tide is turning back to favour the online daters given all the choice thats available. I personally cant think of any other industry, be it related or not, where you can find some companies offering it all for free.  The trick for the consumer is to find the online dating sites that are truely free.

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2009
06.20

Asian Online Dating in Australia

Growing numbers of young Asians also including other Australians are finding it hard to find a partner.  Similar to other Australians, many singles now leave marriage and love until later down the track putting their careers as the main priority.  The difference however, when they then decide to pursue love is that many have more restrictive religious or cultural parameters to work with.  Singles often find that a lot of the available partners are already taken.

 

They wind up having a very small pool to choose from.

 

One thing about cultures with certain viewpoints and rule sets is that there is often a strong community and there are sometimes people within that community who can assist.  The temple etc provides a great place to meet people of the same mindset.  If there is nobody there that suits, religious leaders can usually suggest someone or put the feelers out although many modern young singles do not want such help to meet their lifetime partner.

 

The options range from looking for romance online to matrimonial matchmakers – organizers within the community who bring suitable people together, whether it’s via family or through organized events.

 

Another options are the traditional parental arranged marriages, where parents pair their son or daughter to a possible match with family present. This can work for some where the paired couple meet in their mother’s living room over a pleasant cup of tea. Although, a parent’s idea of an appropriate boy or girl can of course vary to what their offspring has in mind. Traditionally many Asian men expect their new bride to move into their family home. This can be a daunting prospect for an independent, well educated, modern woman.

 

 

Statistics are against Asian females – many Asian males marry outside their religious circle.  This is acceptable for men but not for women.

 

The most recent census indicated that more British Asian males are marrying outside of their ethnic circles than British Asian women.

 

For Asian males the option to “marry out” is much easier given the fact that it is culturally, and in many cases religiously less frowned upon to select a partner away from their faith than it is for Asian females.

 

Other men may decide to marry a partner from their parents country of birth. Government research shows a growing number of females migrating as a result of a marriage outside their culture or religion.  This amounts to a smaller pool of males available in Australia.

 

Online dating seems to be an obvious solution to provide them the chance to meet a variety of suitable online dating singles of the correct demographic regardless of geographical boundaries.

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2009
06.14
These days, more and more singles are finding their perfect mate on the Internet via online dating – and a few unlucky ones are finding their perfect online dating sob story! The Internet is a faceless communications medium in which any person can be anything they claim to be. This makes it easy for the liars to fool their way into your head and into your heart – but it can also make for the beginnings of a very strong relationship. Online dating allows you to get to know each other more deeply than just a casual meeting at a bus stop before committing to a meeting. How do you determine whether you’ve caught a keeper or a throw-me-back?

So think you’ve found a perfect bloke!

You’ve been hanging about in your favourite online dating chat room, and just last week this new guy came in. His nickname is RussellCrowe, which set your heart a-thumping the minute you saw it, and of course you had to talk with him. “You’re not REALLY Russell, are you? No? Do you look like him?” He answers in the negative to both, telling you that he looks better than Crowe, actually. He’s a Sydney barrister, with offices in the CBD. And you’re off and running.

Over the course of a few days you spend ten or twelve hours chatting with him online. You feel like you can tell this man anything, and he seems to be telling you all of the deeper thoughts and feelings he has. How do you know he’s for real? Here are a few ways to find out.

What does he look like?

For starters, always ask for pictures. That is pictures, plural. Why?

A philanderer may have found a generic photograph of some suitable bloke on the web and downloaded it to call his own. It is unlikely that they will have more than one photo to share with you if this is the case. In this modern era of inexpensive digital cameras and high speed connections for uploading images to online dating sites quickly, there is almost no reason for a person not to have three, four, a half-dozen photographs of themselves doing various things, from sitting in their lounge to hoisting a schooner at the hotel and back again. If you’re presented with pictures that were clearly taken all at one sitting, and moreso, if they appear to be professional sorts of images, this should raise a warning bell. If he looks like he’s perfect in the pictures, this too, should raise the alarms. Real people don’t tend to be flawless.

What are his interests?

Does the fellow seem to be interested in everything that you are? Or does he have any interests that you don’t share? If he’s just involved in the things that you mention first, ask him what else he enjoys. An answer of “Oh, you know, this and that! Let’s talk more about YOU!” is really not what you are looking for. A real human being has strong likes and dislikes of his own, and is generally willing to share them, sometimes in too much detail.

Do you have friends in common?

You both live in Sydney or its environs, and you both chat in the Sydney chat room on hook me up your favourite website. It’s an odds on bet that you’ve got at least one or two online dating friends in common, if not in offline life, then online. Talk to your common friends and ask them about this man. Be prepared to be surprised, but hope for a good report.

Is he consistent?

The number of fakers who are caught through simple inconsistencies is amazing. If he tells you on Monday that he’s a big fan of Cold Chisel, but then on Friday he doesn’t recognize the lyrics to “When the War is Over”, you may have a problem there. If he tells you that he’s a big Star Wars fan, but doesn’t know which planet Luke Skywalker was from, you should probably be wary. If, on the other hand, he tells you every detail of Luke’s life, and knows how his face got mangled in real life, he’ll be apples, mate!

Is he willing to let you ring him?

If a guy you meet online is unwilling to give you his home telephone number, this could be a sign that he’s got a reason he doesn’t want calls at home – for example, he’s married or living with somebody. This is not certain, as, for example, some people these days only have mobile phones, and others may be concerned about giving out personal contact information to a total stranger from the Internet. Online dating can be a bit of a challenge for both daters

The show-down!

Of course, nothing will guarantee that this person is everything that they claim to be, except for meeting them in person and really getting to know them. This hold for the world of online dating and chance meetings.

The first few dates should be conducted with some amount of safety precautions, as once again, this is a stranger you are meeting. Just as you wouldn’t want to go off alone with a stranger you’ve just met at a pub, you want to ensure maximum safety with somebody you’ve just met online.

Meet in a well frequented place, for example, under the dome at the QVB.

Bring a friend, and suggest that he bring one as well if you mention this in advance. If you can’t bring a friend for whatever reason, make sure that at least three friends know where you are going and why you are going there. Arrange check-in times to ring them up and let them know that all is well. Also ask them to call you at least once so you can escape if you are on a date with Mr Creepy

Don’t bring a person you’ve just met to your home, nor should you go to theirs. Save that for when you know each other better.

Recap

The simple fact is that most of the people you meet online will be pretty much what they present themselves as, but there’s always one bad apple in every barrel. By checking for consistency, believability, and keeping basic safety in your thoughts without being paranoid, you could end up meeting the person you will marry one day. Anybody who doesn’t feel that expecting these things from a potential date or mate is probably not somebody you want to seriously consider spending much time with, either online or off.

Happy dating!

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2009
05.28
Dr’s and psychologists have researched grief and its cycle over time in relation to death and loss.  A divorce, especially if you have been married for a long time is no different in that you need time to grieve your loss.  In addition, Divorce often brings with it a sense of failure and conflicting emotions of love and perhaps hate.  There are five stages to the recovery process:  denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

During the denial phase, people often convince themselves that it is not really over, that miraculously everything will work out.  Another form of denial is denying that you feel any grief.  If early on in the divorce, you find yourself saying to people that you are over it then you may be setting yourself up for depression.

Next comes the anger – there may be other factors helping to fuel this.  Infidelity, abandonment, being left with the responsibilty of perhaps the home, the children or feeling like you have been cut out of your families lives all help fuel anger.

When the anger starts to fade, often people find themselves bargaining with their ex, as if by settling something the pain will go away.

Depression, more than often still tinged with anger is a feeling of deep sadness. At this stage the severly affected often seek help before settling into the acceptance stage.  At this time, it is time to pick up the pieces and rebuild your new life.

There are often times when the cycles intermingle and overlap or even seem absent.  It is unusual though for any one phase to be missed completely.  There are some things though that can help on that road to recovery and help you to get back “on the scene”.

Take Control

The first thing to do is try to take control of your life, of your finances and to see yourself as an independent being.  There is little point in moping around feeling sorry for yourself or going out and drinking every night.  It is time to stand up and start living the life you want to continue living.

Do things to make you happy – instead of feeling sorry for yourself and coming home every night to a microwave dinner.  Start to do things to make yourself happy.  Go for walks, buy yourself treats, start online dating and chatting to other people who are single, just like you.  Groups online often can help you to meet other singles with similar interests without it becoming so much like a “date”.

Learn who you are and to be yourself – Often during a marriage, you mould yourself and your partner into someone who makes the other happy or at least that they can live with.  Its time to let this go and start to think about what you like, what are your preferences and what you like to do.  You may be surprised with the person you find inside yourself!  Then you can go out or get online and meet others with the same take on life as you – before you know it you will be happier than you were before.  All it takes is for you to make it happen.

Let the past go – Dont dwell on the past, what went wrong and what went right.  That is what it is – the past.  Try to look back on the good times with fondness and forget the bad ever happened.  You may think that is impossible but with effort you will find that it isnt and you can start enjoying your life.

Be an initiator – don’t wait for others to invite you along for the ride – dive in and make things happen.  join social groups, setup your own online groups and invite people to join in the fun.

Dont become a stalker – many people feel that when they get divorced, they still have the right to contact their partner every day and to know what and when they are doing things.  This is not acceptable.  What your ex does and who they see is no longer your concern.  Accept it and move on. If you continue to contact your partner and to try to discuss what has happened continually, even if they ask you not to then you are stalking them.  This is not allowed by law and is not a good place for you to be at emotionally.  Try to meet new friends, online dating allows you to contact like minded folk day or night and so may be the answer for those sleepless nights.

Dont talk about it too much – When you start meeting friends online, you may go through a phase of talking about your ex, your divorce and your feelings.  This is fine and online dating and chat rooms allow you to do this – this could be better than paying a therapist!  Long term though your aim has to be to move forward.  When this time comes then try to avoid talking about your past and talk just about the now.  Noone wants to listen to someone going on and on about a significant other.

Let yourself grieve – there is a time for the grieving and it is important that you allow this healing process to take place.  Just don’t let it take over.

Trust and don’t let your new friends pay for the sins of your ex – Now you are back in the land of the living and hopefully online dating lots of local singles, remember not to let this past divorce spoil things for you in your future.  For instance if your ex cheated, there is nothing to say that your new friends will do similarly.  Trust, be open and honest and things can only get better!

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2009
05.24
The overall number of memberships found on social network sites exceeds dating sites. The largest online social network is face book with a staggering ninety million members. Many of these sites are free with the sites earning revenue from advertising alone.

These sites are not just used as a tool for finding singles but more so for forming communities through referral systems. These systems are similar to offline connections so there can often be a more trusting factor compared to online dating sites. On the down side, if your simply looking for love not everyone on these sites are there for a romantic reason, so its not advised to be too forward too fast. There is more of a “get to know you” and building trust factor on these sites. Its more about friendship and building a group of friends and keeping up to date with each others lives.

The romantic matching capabilities aren’t as effective as online dating sites. The largest online dating site, plenty of fish is a free dating site and has around ten million members. If its love your looking for, dating site members will share a more common goal and the agenda is more direct. These sites often provide members dating advice and relationship experts to assist with your searching.

Chat rooms are a common means for more personal interaction prior to a real life meeting. Some negatives for this dating concept are that active members are smaller than social network sites. People often exaggerate their qualities to attract partners. This can range from mis-leading photos, their employment status and age. Dating site members often express frustration when making contact with other singles via email and receiving small amounts of reply emails.

Fraud members are also common, however this largely depends on the quality of the dating site you join. Nigerian money laundering scams or foreign mail order brides are scams to look out for. Well organized dating sites will screen their members to weed out the fakes. Dating sites usually charge subscriptions and member complaints are common due to fake members and dubious public marketing. There are many quality free online dating sites on the net so research these options when deciding which site is best for you.

On closing, some advice to take away from this would be to not only include online options, but to equally explore and pay attention to offline opportunities such as singles events or interacting at other social functions.

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2009
05.21
Australian Online Dating Services Sees Surge in Cyber-space…….

Recent online dating patterns reflect emerging social realities, as opposed to certain individual traits having a shy personality . Studies performed by an Australian University noted the how and why of internet romance .

Political Scientists at the Australian University are researching the rise in the growing number of singles that are using online dating services in Australia.

Information in this report shows that in a 4 week period, there were almost 1 million first time visitors to online dating websites in Australia, with more than 1 million more existing online daters returning to dating websites. There are more than 50 popular or widely used online dating sites, and approximately 170 online dating services catering for individual religions or sexual preferences just to name a few examples.

Interestingly, the Australian University also revealed that the increasing trend in online dating was for mainly social reasons. Several of the participants in the study indicated using online dating sites for several reasons: a new a more private method of meeting singles or friends after ending a long standing relationship, it was also convenient for meeting singles or friends after moving house to a different residential address, online dating was also considered when friends are not available. The internet was a new idea and concept following bad offline dating mishaps.

People were also interested in online dating sites given the potential to meet a large number of singles or potential new dates in a small period of time. There was a diverse choice of people to select from with immediate access to information and helped with matching issues that people saw as priorities such as smokers and non smokers, if potential partners have kids, and other matching priorities.

Not being able to assess instant chemistry when using online dating websites was a disadvantage that could only be rectified by meeting offline. Other noted negative factors were that other online daters could be misleading in their physical description and professional status. Miscommunications often had a negative result with online dating as this problem seems to be a common occurrence.

Researches concur that there should be more accessible information on the effects of cyber-communication, and that the dating website owners themselves should give this more attention.  

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2009
05.19
A loss or break up from a long time partner can leave you lacking direction and self esteem. Its human nature that such a loss may sooner or later see you searching for company again from a new life companion. Many recent singles will find it difficult finding that confidence you once had. You will miss the companionship and emotional bond your past relationship provided.

 

You will remember experiences in your previous singles years when you were confident in attending social outings with prospects of socializing and mingling  with other singles. Dating and flirting with the opposite gender was all part and parcel of your social times. After splitting from your partner many of us will realize that what used to come as second nature in the singles and dating scene is all but forgotten and it will all appear like a lonely and up hill battle.

 

Entering the singles and dating scene can often bring on depression and many will not have the courage to get back out there. If you go to a party or a social event, seeing other people making progress with singles can often push your confidence to an even lower level. You wont have been in this situation for a long time and feel that you no longer have the knack of starting a conversation with other singles. The thought of rejection is a big factor when making the first move to start dating again.

 

Have you ever thought about the internet and online dating? This is an alternative that you should investigate and it provides some anonymity and you can go at your own speed. Online dating is not confronting and you could be pleasantly surprised at how many other singles are in a similar position you are in. Online dating is quite a common meeting place for singles these days. The thought of rejection can be reduced and searching through compatible member profiles permits you to communicate with other members without the one on one intimidation factor.

 

The cost of using an online dating site is tiny especially compared to the cost you may need to allow for when going out for a night at the local night club or bar. There are free online dating sites available to anyone on the internet and meeting singles doesn’t need to cost you anything at all. Online dating services are used by a wide variety people in all sorts of situations. Some examples are busy or time poor singles, for convenience, no or virtually no cost, seeking  certain or specific types of singles, preferred religions, certain age groups, same gender singles, you may have moved to a new city, or simply to find new friends.

 

 

The internet can be used by anyone and millions of people are taking up this option it to explore new and exciting beginnings. Try a Google search on free online dating or free dating and search the many thousands of singles similar to you who are looking for friendship or more. Being single again shouldn’t need to be a down ward spiral, investigate your options and use the internet to build your self esteem again.

 

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2009
05.19
In an undisclosed deal, hookmeup is assisting oasisactive with their push into the Australian free online dating market. So successful has the launch of www.oasisactive.com.au been, within ten months of their website going live, their site has the second largest market share of online singles in Australia.

Traditionally, online dating site owners have racked in mega revenue over the years from subscriptions charged to their members. So lucrative has this market been, that billionaire media tycoons have snapped up several leading dating sites in Australia and the USA to add to their portfolio of companies.

Whilst the free online dating concept has been around for many years in Australia, none have penetrated deep into the Australian market such as the likes of plentyoffish.com in the USA, which is now the largest dating site in the world.

The partnership between www.hookmeup.com.au and oasisactive is tipped by industry experts to loosen the grip that the three big Australian paid dating sites have. With charging their members subscriptions being the only way to remain viable for the traditional dating sites, this new free dating partnership will send a worrying message to the big three paid sites.

In this fiercely competitive industry, the sudden success of oasisactive is largely due to its founder and Managing Director, Daniel Haigh. Daniel has been involved with online dating for many years and attributes his success partly to joint ventures such as the likes of the recent agreement between hookmeup and oasisactive. In recent years, Daniels group of companies, 3hgroup has been involved in other joint ventures including a partnership with MSN (MSN messenger).

With over one million Australian singles searching for love on the internet each month, hookmeup and oasisactive are telling singles to forget about paying,  put their credit cards away and sign up to their dating sites for free.

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